Beaten, Battered, and partially Defeated
Time flies when you're busy. It's already been about a month since my last entry and yet it felt like yesterday. If only there was a machine that could slow time down...I would buy that in a heartbeat.
So for the past week I've been doing a lot of computer stuff, mainly because it got infected with a spyware which led to 64384952 amount of viruses. I downloaded almost every anti-spyware programs in the world and none of them worked. Eventually I managed to find some technical support through the Dell forums and get the fix. It appears that the the viruses disguises themselves with an encrypted file extension. For example, instead of the usual .exe, it masks itself as ".exeSDFJ234093PF" thus eluding the anti-virus scans. I'm glad this ordeal is over since it seemed I was constantly bombarded with computer problems (my video card broke the week before and had to replace it).
Midterms are just about done (one more left next week). Just finished one today and realized I left my pencil case in the classroom after I finished. It's never seen again, so I angrily made my way towards Staples and bought everything I lost. Anyways, the results from my midterms were dispersed. Some I did well and others not so hot, so come finals I must bear down and get my act together once again. I can't believe I'll be graduating after this year (barring any extended cirumstances). Time to flip to another chapter of my life...
I think I've shed more light into the way I look at people now. After several contemplating sessions, I think I can roughly discern and separate different classes of people. One thing I've realized, and most people would agree, is that appearance is predominant in almost every aspect of social interaction. Appearance will always be the first and last factor people use to judge someone else. If anyone disagreed with what I just said, take a moment and reflect upon how people interact. The first thing you see is their appearance. Our minds then provokes us to grasp a better understanding of the other person by being more social with him/her. While gathering information, you are still in close eye-contact with the one you are talking to. As a result, his/her appearance is constantly playing a role in your judgement (observing subtleties in their body language, the way they react to certain topics). Even after you have cohersed and separated from the individual, you're mind will review their previous reactions. Ultimately, one can conclude that whatever your eyes tell you is a significant part of one's decision-making process. If anyone still don't agree with my argument or refuse to believe in such nonsense, then you should stop reading from here on out. What I'm about to write about will be based solely upon this assumption.
I also understand that many of you might disagree with my perspective and that discrepancies exist in almost all of my arguments. So before I list out these erroneous classifications, please put aside any personal differences in opinion and create your own arguments AFTER you have analyzed what I've said thoroughly. The reason for me to write all of this is because I want to see the differences and similarities with my assessment among the people I know and trust (input would be greatly appreciated as always).
Before I begin, I must note that my intentions are not to classify a specific class to each person. Many people may possess certain traits from each of the classes. I only use the classes as a guideline and for simplicity sake, or else I would be jumping back and forth connecting people with each of the classes (Thanks to Forrest for letting me know to point this out BEFORE the explanation).
Class A - The Physically Gifted
These are the type of people who are physically appealing. Their good looks catches a lot of peoples' attentions, thus attracting a lot of friends. This makes them very popular within the social community, and in turn makes them more arrogant compared to the average person. Why you might ask? Popularity gives people a sense of worth (if not, then accomplishment). Being in the center of attention makes them oblivious to how they treat other people, since they are too occupied in being social. In most cases, they start comparing people and associate only with the people they desire. This sort of arrogance leads to having a lot of confidence, which could lead to cockiness if not controlled. Their popularity eliminates any difficulty for them to make friends, which means the only choice left for them is to choose which types to be around with.
Class B - The Everyday Appreciated
People in this category are not especially attractive, although many of them tend to be above-average. Instead their personality is sufficient enough to fill the gap in making them as appealing as Class A. They are genuinely good people, understands moral and personal values fairly well. What makes them appreciated is because of their easy-going attitude and their ability to adapt to a variety of different people. As a result, most of them are very open-minded and will tend to speak out more often than most. Their understanding of what is good and what is bad allows them to become very dependable in dealing with difficult situations.
Class C - The Cautiously Reserved
For the following group of people, it is clear they do not have the luxury of an alluring figure. These people are not the typical attractive kind of people that stands out in a group. Their personality is also not so predictable as it particularly varies a lot among each of them. It is fair to say that most of the ones in this category has a firm grasp on the bias against each and everyone of them. What I mean by that is their experience through stereotypes (which exists between these classes) conditioned them to feel lower of themselves compared to the rest of the population. With this knowledge, they can relate to other people's feelings more easily, thus making them very good listeners.
(Other Cases) Class D - Combinations of Classes
I'm well aware of the fact that people may possess traits from all of the classes. For example, someone in class A might not necessarily be arrogant just because they look good. I've seen people who are attractive and very considerate to others, though I must confess that not many are like this. Influences and the surroundings plays a huge role in forming these combinations. Family relations and possible personal conflicts are also exceptions to one belonging into the above classes. These unique circumstances I treated separately, hence the creation of this class.
Conclusion
Well, I know what everyone would be saying to me now after writing all of this. So I decided to look back into my blog archives and started reading some of the things I've wrote and the feedback I received. Let's take a trip down memory lane shall we?
You shouldn't curr about your appearance so much. it isn't everything. Seriously, you should just say to yourself ovah and ovah again "i don't curr" when you think about your appearance. Because you shouldn't care that much. Ppl who matter - they don't put emphasis on your appearance. Do your friends judge you by that? Family? I'm fairly sure they don't.
Heh, reading this again made me feel all warm inside for some reason. I do know where this is coming from, but is it wrong to say that at least some emphasis should be put upon appearance? Can you judge someone purely by the person they are? I think only a select few can do so....even I'm not confident in saying that and I always tried my best to be viewed as someone who cares deeply about his peers.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. it's common knowledge that the most beautiful girl becomes ugly when her attitude is ugly too. In the same way... a mediocre looking girl looks extremely beautiful and attractive when her personality is beautiful and sweet. Even though our generation values looks.. there are always people who dont follow the trends.
I totally agree with that, but not everyone is like me. I've discovered a lot more people preaching this sort of thing, yet when the real thing comes at them, they act completely in the contrary and become very shallow. Either they don't realize this themselves, or that's indeed actually their true self. I certainly hope I'm not part of the former. As for the people who don't follow the trends, I guess the only ones who I know that are like this is probably my friends (and future ones to come).
I keep relating to the fact that there's something about me which can't be accepted by other people. That it's something about my personality that isn't viewed upon so nicely. I ask myself: "What makes me different than them? What are they doing differently that I do not do? What is wrong with me?"
I read this again and was a little surprised (at myself actually writing this). Maybe because it was my year-end blog and I was in a "spill everything out" kind of mood. Anyways, until it happens otherwise, I'll find myself asking these same questions.
Updated (December 4th, 2005) - So what to make out of all of this? What can we conclude?
From Kepelus' point of view: "One should always care about appearance. However I don't think one should count on it for beyond making the initial connection with another person. After that it's real person-person skills."
I remember hearing something along the lines of this from another person. This is sort of the middle stance people will take regarding this issue. Appearance should play a role when meeting new people, nothing more. Though I hope most people feel this way, I can only imagine how realistic this applies to everyone.
I guess I've written enough about this. Congratulations to anyone who read this far. For the people who don't know me and stumble upon this, I hope I didn't sound too disturbing. This is what you get for thinking too much.
Time flies when you're busy. It's already been about a month since my last entry and yet it felt like yesterday. If only there was a machine that could slow time down...I would buy that in a heartbeat.
So for the past week I've been doing a lot of computer stuff, mainly because it got infected with a spyware which led to 64384952 amount of viruses. I downloaded almost every anti-spyware programs in the world and none of them worked. Eventually I managed to find some technical support through the Dell forums and get the fix. It appears that the the viruses disguises themselves with an encrypted file extension. For example, instead of the usual .exe, it masks itself as ".exeSDFJ234093PF" thus eluding the anti-virus scans. I'm glad this ordeal is over since it seemed I was constantly bombarded with computer problems (my video card broke the week before and had to replace it).
Midterms are just about done (one more left next week). Just finished one today and realized I left my pencil case in the classroom after I finished. It's never seen again, so I angrily made my way towards Staples and bought everything I lost. Anyways, the results from my midterms were dispersed. Some I did well and others not so hot, so come finals I must bear down and get my act together once again. I can't believe I'll be graduating after this year (barring any extended cirumstances). Time to flip to another chapter of my life...
I think I've shed more light into the way I look at people now. After several contemplating sessions, I think I can roughly discern and separate different classes of people. One thing I've realized, and most people would agree, is that appearance is predominant in almost every aspect of social interaction. Appearance will always be the first and last factor people use to judge someone else. If anyone disagreed with what I just said, take a moment and reflect upon how people interact. The first thing you see is their appearance. Our minds then provokes us to grasp a better understanding of the other person by being more social with him/her. While gathering information, you are still in close eye-contact with the one you are talking to. As a result, his/her appearance is constantly playing a role in your judgement (observing subtleties in their body language, the way they react to certain topics). Even after you have cohersed and separated from the individual, you're mind will review their previous reactions. Ultimately, one can conclude that whatever your eyes tell you is a significant part of one's decision-making process. If anyone still don't agree with my argument or refuse to believe in such nonsense, then you should stop reading from here on out. What I'm about to write about will be based solely upon this assumption.
I also understand that many of you might disagree with my perspective and that discrepancies exist in almost all of my arguments. So before I list out these erroneous classifications, please put aside any personal differences in opinion and create your own arguments AFTER you have analyzed what I've said thoroughly. The reason for me to write all of this is because I want to see the differences and similarities with my assessment among the people I know and trust (input would be greatly appreciated as always).
Before I begin, I must note that my intentions are not to classify a specific class to each person. Many people may possess certain traits from each of the classes. I only use the classes as a guideline and for simplicity sake, or else I would be jumping back and forth connecting people with each of the classes (Thanks to Forrest for letting me know to point this out BEFORE the explanation).
Class A - The Physically Gifted
These are the type of people who are physically appealing. Their good looks catches a lot of peoples' attentions, thus attracting a lot of friends. This makes them very popular within the social community, and in turn makes them more arrogant compared to the average person. Why you might ask? Popularity gives people a sense of worth (if not, then accomplishment). Being in the center of attention makes them oblivious to how they treat other people, since they are too occupied in being social. In most cases, they start comparing people and associate only with the people they desire. This sort of arrogance leads to having a lot of confidence, which could lead to cockiness if not controlled. Their popularity eliminates any difficulty for them to make friends, which means the only choice left for them is to choose which types to be around with.
Class B - The Everyday Appreciated
People in this category are not especially attractive, although many of them tend to be above-average. Instead their personality is sufficient enough to fill the gap in making them as appealing as Class A. They are genuinely good people, understands moral and personal values fairly well. What makes them appreciated is because of their easy-going attitude and their ability to adapt to a variety of different people. As a result, most of them are very open-minded and will tend to speak out more often than most. Their understanding of what is good and what is bad allows them to become very dependable in dealing with difficult situations.
Class C - The Cautiously Reserved
For the following group of people, it is clear they do not have the luxury of an alluring figure. These people are not the typical attractive kind of people that stands out in a group. Their personality is also not so predictable as it particularly varies a lot among each of them. It is fair to say that most of the ones in this category has a firm grasp on the bias against each and everyone of them. What I mean by that is their experience through stereotypes (which exists between these classes) conditioned them to feel lower of themselves compared to the rest of the population. With this knowledge, they can relate to other people's feelings more easily, thus making them very good listeners.
(Other Cases) Class D - Combinations of Classes
I'm well aware of the fact that people may possess traits from all of the classes. For example, someone in class A might not necessarily be arrogant just because they look good. I've seen people who are attractive and very considerate to others, though I must confess that not many are like this. Influences and the surroundings plays a huge role in forming these combinations. Family relations and possible personal conflicts are also exceptions to one belonging into the above classes. These unique circumstances I treated separately, hence the creation of this class.
Conclusion
Well, I know what everyone would be saying to me now after writing all of this. So I decided to look back into my blog archives and started reading some of the things I've wrote and the feedback I received. Let's take a trip down memory lane shall we?
You shouldn't curr about your appearance so much. it isn't everything. Seriously, you should just say to yourself ovah and ovah again "i don't curr" when you think about your appearance. Because you shouldn't care that much. Ppl who matter - they don't put emphasis on your appearance. Do your friends judge you by that? Family? I'm fairly sure they don't.
Heh, reading this again made me feel all warm inside for some reason. I do know where this is coming from, but is it wrong to say that at least some emphasis should be put upon appearance? Can you judge someone purely by the person they are? I think only a select few can do so....even I'm not confident in saying that and I always tried my best to be viewed as someone who cares deeply about his peers.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. it's common knowledge that the most beautiful girl becomes ugly when her attitude is ugly too. In the same way... a mediocre looking girl looks extremely beautiful and attractive when her personality is beautiful and sweet. Even though our generation values looks.. there are always people who dont follow the trends.
I totally agree with that, but not everyone is like me. I've discovered a lot more people preaching this sort of thing, yet when the real thing comes at them, they act completely in the contrary and become very shallow. Either they don't realize this themselves, or that's indeed actually their true self. I certainly hope I'm not part of the former. As for the people who don't follow the trends, I guess the only ones who I know that are like this is probably my friends (and future ones to come).
I keep relating to the fact that there's something about me which can't be accepted by other people. That it's something about my personality that isn't viewed upon so nicely. I ask myself: "What makes me different than them? What are they doing differently that I do not do? What is wrong with me?"
I read this again and was a little surprised (at myself actually writing this). Maybe because it was my year-end blog and I was in a "spill everything out" kind of mood. Anyways, until it happens otherwise, I'll find myself asking these same questions.
Updated (December 4th, 2005) - So what to make out of all of this? What can we conclude?
From Kepelus' point of view: "One should always care about appearance. However I don't think one should count on it for beyond making the initial connection with another person. After that it's real person-person skills."
I remember hearing something along the lines of this from another person. This is sort of the middle stance people will take regarding this issue. Appearance should play a role when meeting new people, nothing more. Though I hope most people feel this way, I can only imagine how realistic this applies to everyone.
I guess I've written enough about this. Congratulations to anyone who read this far. For the people who don't know me and stumble upon this, I hope I didn't sound too disturbing. This is what you get for thinking too much.
